Main Scriptures: Matthew 5:46-48
More Scriptures: Gen.17:1, Lk.6:36, Lev.11:44
For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? Do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? Do not even the publicans so? BE YE THEREFORE PERFECT, EVEN AS YOUR FATHER WHICH IS IN HEAVEN IS PERFECT. This is the text of our reading today. And it critically imposes a huge responsibility and challenge on the husbands who are the heads and spiritual leaders of their family fold. As the head of the family, it is a lie to think and believe that you cannot be better than you are presently. It is not true that you cannot grow out of your childishness of always beating your wife, insulting her or even destroying her self esteem with your words. It is also not true that you cannot be better than what you do presently in the way you relate with your children. If God is perfect, you can be perfect. You have no excuse. You cannot continue to insult your flocks at will or at the slightest provocation and be relaxed that that is your nature. No, you can outgrow that habits which have continued to make you look like a terror to your wife and children. You can outgrow bitterness against your wife and children. You can outgrow that envy you have over the success of your wife. You can be better than you are. You have not been created to mistreat your wife and children either physically, emotionally or mentally and even spiritually. God made you the head of the family to replicate His nature and conduct in the lives of your flocks. For instance, for a husband to continue to commit adultery either in his heart or physically and resigned himself to that kind of life and say that that is his nature, is to be heading for danger. Jesus Christ, the example of how husbands must behave, said be ye perfect. This means perfection is a possibility if only you are prepared to pay the price. But what does perfection mean in this context? It means maturity. Maturity is the ability and capacity of a leader to behave properly in the face of obvious provocation. For instance, for you to smile and be quiet when your wife makes ungraceful remarks about you is the height of a matured husband. For you to embrace and encourage your child after a poor exam results is the character of a matured mentor. However, for you to be a matured and responsible husband, you must continue to give attention to the word of God. Secondly, you must sincerely ask the Lord for His help. Thirdly, you must live by and act in faith. You must trust God that His words are true and will lead you to a life of peace and joy with your wife and children. Remember that He is not a man that would lie or the son of man that He would repent. Finally, see the bigger picture of your wife and children. Focus on the positives of your wife and children rather than their negatives. You’re their leader, lead well.
· Father, heal my heart of every weakness, doubt and fear.
· Father, deliver me from the power of unreasonable actions and utterances
· Father, give me strength in my weakest moments. Help me quickly
I will live to please the Lord in all things as I lead my wife and children in Jesus name. Amen.