Main Scriptures: Hebrews 13:16
More Scriptures: I Pt.3:7, Matt.5:45, Eph.4:29
I have discovered that keeping the communication lines open with God and your wife is very important for your position as the head and spiritual leader of your family. It is one of the wisdom keys to keep the enemy away from your home. One of the major factors responsible for the heat and pressure that husbands experience in their relationship with their wives and children is lack of communication. Yes, it is true that your wife and children have misbehaved and may have kept malice with them. But the Holy Spirit is saying to you this day, break the silence. Open the line of communication again with them. But how do I break the silence? You break the silence by talking to them. Perhaps, you are not on speaking terms with your wife and children. This is the time for you to talk with them words that will edify them. You also break the silence by forgiving them. In Matt.6, Jesus Christ gave a pattern of sowing and reaping when He said, and forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us.
No matter the trespasses your wife and children may have committed against you, your perfect example, Jesus Christ says, forgive them. Sometimes your wife and children may be afraid to talk to you for fear of being insulted by you. Take the initiative. Call and tell them in love “I have forgiven you”. But why must I break the silence with my wife and children? Firstly, it leads to answered prayers (1Pt.3:7). Secondly, it shows that you have the nature of Christ in you (Matt.5:45). Remember that you are a father figure to your wife and children. Your lifestyle should reflect the fatherhood nature of God. They should be able to see God as a loving and forgiving Father through you. Taking the initiative to talk to your flock or call them to openly assure them that you have forgiven them or apologize to them for your own misconduct is not a sign of weakness. Rather, it is a sign of maturity. Just like my father in the faith, Bishop David Oyedepo once said that it takes two to fight. It will also take two to communicate. So if your wife and children have kept silence, you can make them talk by talking to them. Silence is a sign of the graveyard. Your home is not a grave yard. Don’t allow the devil to make it one and don’t allow yourself to be used by him to make your family a cemetery.
· Father, by the Precious blood of Jesus Christ, deliver me from the power of bitterness
· Father, baptize me with Your Spirit of love to love my wife and children again.
· Father, empower me with Your grace to sustain and continue to love my wife
I break the power of hatred and malice with my wife and children because I have been ordained by God to be a good and godly husband in Jesus name. Amen