Main Scriptures: Eph.5:1-2
More Scriptures: Phil.3:17, 1Thess.1:6, Eph.5:1
I am the true vine, and my Father is the gardener. He cuts off every branch in me that bears no fruit, while every branch that does bear fruit, he prunes so that it will be even more fruitful. You are already clean because of the word I have spoken to you. Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself. It must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. (Jn.15:1-4) New International Version.
I have come to discover that the fastest and quickest way to ascend your throne as the godly man, husband and father is by following the footsteps of Jesus Christ and serving your sheep willing, cheerfully, and delightsomely. It is often said that until you learn how to be a follower, you cannot be an effectual leader. This is why as the head of your family, you must understand that followership or loyalty from your wife and children begins with you following the Person of Jesus Christ. Be ye therefore followers of God as dear children, and walk in love as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour (Eph.5:1-2). Paul was speaking to his followers the same way your wife and children are ordained by God to follow you. They are your sheep and you are their shepherd. For instance, Isaac followed his father and Sarah also followed her husband, Abraham (Gen.12:1-3). God wants your wife and children to follow you in the path of righteousness by you leading them in the way of the Lord (1Cor.11:1b).
But for you to lead your wife and children in the things that are right, you must first be a follower of Jesus Christ. His life must reflect in your own life-the thought of your heart, your speech, you conduct on and off the home front. It is your walk with God that determines how much influence you will have over your wife and children. Your life must demonstrate your unwavering submission to the will of God, from His Word- Bible. In Matt.5, the word of God says, let your light so shine before men that they may glorify God Who is in heaven. As a husband, if your wife and children have become rebellious or resist following you, you must ask yourself these following questions. Am I living a transparent life that my wife and children can emulate? Have I truly been a worthy mentor to them? Does my action toward my wife and children and the things of God agrees with what I say? Have I done something different from what I teach or say? Your wife and children are watching you. If they don’t see you as a worthy example, they will not follow you no matter how much you shout or intimidate them. Therefore, you must continue to examine your life to see if you are still doing the right thing to God and to them (2Cor.13:5).
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to follow You in all things.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, let the Spirit of loyal followership come upon my wife and children.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, destroy every rebellious spirit working in my life and the life of wife and children.
My wife and children shall follow me committedly and cheerfully as their shepherd because I am a follower of Jesus Christ in Jesus mighty name. Amen