HOW TO GAIN THEIR HEARTS

Bible Texts: Rom.15:1-6, Pro.23:26, Ps.34:14-15, Pro.20:12, Gen.12:2, Matt.5:14-16, Jn.3:16, Pro.4:23

In Proverbs, God asks that you give Him your heart (Pro.23:26). Do you know why? It is because if God can have your heart, He gives you access to the deep things of the Spirit which empowers you to function maximally as the good and godly man, husband and father.

So, today, let us consider how you can also get the hearts of your wife and children so that you can provide the required leadership that will enable them become all that God wants them to be. But you must understand that being the husbandman is about serving their interest. You are not to torment, oppress or intimidate them.

Now, how do you gain their hearts? Romans chapter 15 gives guidance.

Let their interests override yours. We then who are strong ought to bear with the scruples of the weak, and not to please ourselves (Rom.15:1). You can gain the hearts of your wife and children by living sacrificially. This means that they take first place, a case of more of them and less of you.

The second step you must take to win their hearts is to intentionally add value to them. Let each of us please his neighbour for his good, leading to edification (Rom.15:2). How have you helped to improve the lives of your wife and children? How have you contributed to the growth, development and transformation of their lives? You are the salt in their lives and it your saltiness that makes you a valuable asset to them and gives you the key to access their hearts.

Thirdly, you must take the attitude of a student who wants to learn. There are times, I listened to my wife and children explain some issues to me and I pick some valuable lessons from what they told me. This attitude makes it easier for them to listen to me when I counsel them and makes them reveal to me what their thoughts are. For whatever things were written before were written for our learning, that through the patience and comfort of Scriptures might have hope (Rom.15:4)

Finally, you must seek and ensure peaceful and harmonious relationship exists between you and your wife and children. Now may the God of patience and comfort grant you to be like-minded toward one another, according to Christ Jesus (Rom.15:5). It is in the atmosphere of peace and harmony that your relationship with your wife and children can flourish and this is what motivates them to pour out their hearts to you.

What goes on in the hearts of your wife and children are the essence of their living. If you can reach to their hearts, you can make all the good and godly difference that will help them become vessels of honour and a blessing to you.

SPIRITUAL EXERCISE

• Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to live a sacrificial life as I lead my wife and children.
• Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to add value to the lives of my wife and children.
• Father, in the Name of Jesus, help me to be attentive to the advice and corrections of my wife and children.

FAITH CONFESSION

I take delight in living a selfless life for my wife and children, developing them unto a people of honour and value and listening to their advice and corrections because that is what gives me access to their heartbeats, making me to lead them as the good and godly husbandman in Jesus name. Amen.

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