Main Scriptures: Eph.4:26-27
More Scriptures: 1Pet.3:7, Col.3:19, 1 Thess.4:4
Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the devil that kind of foothold in your life (Eph.4:26-27) MSG
Yesterday, the Holy Spirit helped us to see when our anger as husbands becomes sin before God, Who called us into the office of the husbandhood. You must understand that it is ungodly if you persistently live in bitterness toward your wife and children. In Eph.4:26-27, the Scriptures say that be angry and sin not. Do not let the sun go down on your anger, and do not give the devil an opportunity. I will suggest to you what I have learnt and practiced from my father in the faith, Bishop David Oyedepo- forward forgiveness. What does this mean? It means that you forgive your wife and children ahead of time by creating enough forgiveness reserve in your heart.
What this will help you to do is prepare you for the worst mistakes that your wife and children may make and be ready to show them mercy immediately. If you learn to operate to forgive your sheep in advance, it will ultimately eliminate bitterness from your heart against your sheep. I can tell several instances in my home where I have had reasons to be upset with my sheep. Yes, I was angry but rather than allow it to linger till the next day, I deliberately kill the urge instantly. I do not allow it to cross over to the next so that I do not unknowingly become bitter towards her and my children and create an opportunity for the devil to come into my home. You can also do the same as the head of your family as you relate with your wife and children. You anger becomes a sin when the words that you speak to your wife and children when you are angry hurts their emotions. For instance, when you call your wife or children good –for- nothing, you have hurt their emotions and have sinned against God and them.
But how do I ensure that my anger does not translate into sin? You learn to be slow to speak and quick to listen. This is the virtue of a godly husband. In 1Pt.3:7-9, God’s word talks about how the godly husband is supposed to deal with his wife. It says you should deal or handle or relate with your wife when you are angry according to the knowledge of God’s word and her personality. When you understand her personality, it becomes easier for you to know when to speak and when to be quiet. Therefore, if you are holding any form of bitterness against your wife or children, or you have hurt them physically and emotionally by the words that you spoke to them, go to them and sincerely apologize. It won’t hurt you. Instead, it will help your wife and children to understand the reality of the fatherhood nature of God.
SPIRITUAL EXERCISE
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to be slow to speak and be quick to hear.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, restrain me from speaking guile and hurtful words to my wife and children when I am angry.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, give me inner peace when I am unhappy with my sheep.
FAITH CONFESSION
I am a man full of power and through the power of God I bring my emotions under control when I am angry because that is what makes me the good and godly husbandman in Jesus name. Amen.
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