Main Scriptures: John 2:13-17
More Scriptures: Eph.4:26, Col.3:19, 1 Thess.4:4
Go ahead and be angry. You do well to be angry but don’t use your anger as fuel for revenge. And don’t stay angry. Don’t go to bed angry. Don’t give the devil that kind of foothold in your life (Eph.4:26-27) MSG
I love the rendition of Ephesians chapter 4 and verses 26 and 27 from the Message translation of the Bible. And I pray that the Holy Spirit will reveal the power behind His to you so that you can become the good and godly man, husband and father that God originally intended for you.
The topic the Holy Spirit is bringing your way, as the head of your family is very important. Some people have suggested that husbands though commanded to love their wives must not be angry with their wives. That is not correct. You have every right to express your displeasure when your wife or children does something that is wrong. What is wrong is the way you communicate your anger. In Eph.4:26, the Word of God says, be angry, and yet do not sin. To deny this truth as the spiritual leader in your home can lead to psychological, spiritual and physical problems. Even Jesus Christ our Perfect example of how husbands should behave demonstrated positive anger over the activities at the temple. The people turned the house of God into a money changing club. And Jesus got hold of a wipe. He overturned their tables and scattered their entire activities (Jn.2:13-17). You have a right to tell your wife or children how badly hurt you feel about their attitudes. However, as the light of your family, you must do it without hurting their emotional wellbeing. This means you have mastered the art of bringing your emotions under control through the help of the Holy Spirit. So, it is okay in that respect.
But when does your anger towards your wife and children become a sin? Firstly, it becomes a sin when you demonstrate a repeated quick-tempered behavior. Over little things, you lose your temper and hit them physically or keep malice with them. For instance, you just flare up because your wife did not pick up your clothes from the bed. Your child pours water on his or her clothes, you shout at him or her as though he or she has committed murder. By this I mean you become irritable and spanked them thereby injuring them. Secondly, your anger becomes sin when your action or inaction hurts them physically. This means by reason of your anger, you become violent. I recall an incident that happened some years ago. The husband and his wife had a quarrel. The husband was angry with his wife over certain issues. And out anger, this husband physically assaulted his wife in the full glare of the public, thereby injuring her. In another occasion, I read about how a husband and father of a child beat up his child because he was angry that the child did not go to school. And the result of his beating led to the death of his son. Any husband who is violent towards his wife and children is certainly an immature husband.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to control my emotions toward my sheep when I am angry.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to act responsibly to my sheep when I am upset with them.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from ungodly influences.
I am a man full of power and through the power of God I bring my emotions under control when I am angry because that is what makes me the good and godly husbandman in Jesus name. Amen.