Main Scriptures: 1Cor.9:22
More Scriptures: 1Cor.13:6, 1Thess.5:14, Nu.13:18
When I am with those who are weak, I share their weakness, for I want to bring the weak to Christ. Yes, I try to find common ground with everyone, doing everything I can to save some. (1Cor.9:22) NLT
As the head of the family and the spiritual leader of the home, it is very important for you to look away from the faults and weakness of your wife and children. What this means is that, you don’t celebrate the weakness or remember the faults of your wife and children. This is so very important, considering the fact that your wife and children are not perfect people. Every time you look intently at the failings of your flock, it tends to get bigger. And that is what the devil wants you to continue to do. This is why no matter what your wife and children do, you will never see anything good about them. This is what the Bible calls a judgmental spirit. If you allow yourself to see only the bad side of their lives, you will be pushed by the devil to seek for alternatives in the brothel, beer parlour, and in the arms of another woman.
Jesus Christ, our example of how husbands must be to their flock, died for us while we were yet in sin. He didn’t consider our weakness or failings. He nonetheless loved us and gave Himself to us. That is the character of a godly husband. You must be willing to lay down your guard of criticism about your wife and children and lift up the banner of love. You must celebrate their strength rather than their weaknesses. Looking away from your wife’s and children’s faults does not imply that those inadequacies do not exist. They exist. Do I look away from those faults and allow them to be destroyed? No. So what do I do to ensure that my wife and children overcome their weakness? The Bible gives the answer. It says, I travail in prayer that Christ be formed in you (Gal.4:19). From this Scripture, the most important thing that you must do is to engage the weapon of prayer to enforce the needed changes in their lives. You cannot allow them to live their lives the way they want to, even if it leads to their destruction. You are the head of the family. God placed you as the shepherd over them, and would demand accountability from you of what you did and didn’t do. You must remember that their joy is your joy. Their happiness is your happiness. You must never give up on your wife and children. It is too early to quit. You have a mandate from God to demonstrate His love to them.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from every spirit of weariness and discouragement.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower my spirit man to be hopeful for my wife and children.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, help me to press on towards the mark of a good life for my wife and children.
I look beyond the faults of my wife and children and focus on the help of God for their positive change because that is my fulfillment as a good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.