Main Scriptures: Jn.1:37-45
More Scriptures: Gen.12:1, 1Sam.1:3, Gen.14:14
The first and most important requirement is that you must know the truth of the gospel of Jesus Christ, who is the perfect example of the good and godly husband. You need to be filled with the knowledge of the word of God regarding His perfect will for you as the man, husband and father. This will help you to differentiate truth from falsehood. The second is that you must learn to listen much more before speaking. In James chapter 1 and verse 19, the Bible has this to say. Dear brothers, don’t forget that it is best to listen much, speak little, and not become angry (TLB). You must learn not to preempt your wife and children. Rather, you must develop godly patience to listen to them. This is one of the characters of Jesus Christ which attracted His disciples to follow Him. You must also be humble in your heart. And this means that you are not ashamed to apologize to your wife and children when you are wrong. You are also willing to learn better ways of growing yourself in the knowledge of Christ. You must also be an encourager. Sometimes, your wife and children misbehave. They don’t meet your expectations. Other times, they fail either in their businesses, tasks or exams. So, rather than abuse them and discourage them, motivate them. Be the first person to assure them that they can try again and succeed. You must learn to give them hope and not fear, direction and not despair. Finally, you must be compassionate and merciful toward your wife and children. You will agree with me that you have failed God several times over but at every point when you fail, God has mercy and compassion on you and forgives you. Likewise, you are to extend the same to your sheep.
As the head of the family, you must not allow distractions in your leadership role. You must contend for your godly heritage as the godly man, husband and father. You must understand that satan, your greatest enemy wants to devalue your position as the head of your family. Satan is jealous of your position, so he will do everything and anything to destroy your position as the head of your family. He is as a roaring lion walking about, seeking the husband that he will take advantage of (1Pet.5:8). The devil, your enemy, wants to get you to a point where you don’t have absolute authority in the affairs of your home; a situation where your voice cannot be heard and be taken very seriously by your flock because you cannot provide quality leadership to your family. Therefore, you must seize the moment as the head of the family to live out the life of Christ for your wife and children and become that light they will follow to their God ordained glorious destinies.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, teach me to be a godly role model to my wife and children.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, uphold me with Your grace to walk in the stead of a godly indicator to my sheep.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from every wrong foundation responsible for my misbehavior as the leader in my sheepfold.
I take full charge of my family kingdom to provide purposeful leadership to my wife and children because that is what makes me the good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.