Main Scriptures: Ecc. 9:9-10
More Scriptures: Ps.119:88, Jn.11:3, Phm 1: 9
Live joyfully with the wife whom thou lovest all the days of thy life…..I returned and saw under the sun that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise not yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill but time and chance happeneth to them all (Ecc.9:9,11)
For him that is joined to all the living there is hope, for a living dog is better than a dead lion (Ecc.9:4)
There are some husbands who have concluded that they can no longer love their wives again. They are no longer attracted to their wives and have demonstrated their dislike for their wives by showing them (wives) unkindness, bitterness, hatred and bad will. This is not the right way to go. There is a better way to handle your disobedient and rebellious wife from the word of God. You can love your wife again, despite her failings and shortcomings. It doesn’t matter how bad your wife may have looked or appeared to be, you can dare to love her again. You can resurrect those loving attitudes that you used to extend to her. You can sincerely love her as Christ has loved the church. God gave her to you so that you can make her into a woman of honour and dignity. Yes, it is true that she does not appreciate your kindness or goodwill. It may even be true that she has not reciprocated all the goodness you showed her. You must not stop loving her. You must not contemplate divorce.
You must not take unworthy steps that would bring the name of God to disrepute. You must honour God by giving her the God-kind of love. It is very important to note that love is not a feeling. It is a choice you make out of every unpleasant circumstance. For instance, to give or pray for those who have not shown you kindness is love. To extend a helping hand or speak nice words to people who have insulted you in the past is love. This is the lifestyle, Jesus Christ, the example of how husbands should behave, wants us to live by. If you love your wife because she is done something right or extend love to her only when she shows your respect then you are not different from the world. Rather, Jesus said that true love is when you love those who cannot repay you. Your wife may not be able to return to you respect and honour; don’t stop loving her. In the process of time, the power of your love will overwhelm her wrong attitudes and bring about a great change in her life.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from every hold of bitterness and hatred I am holding against my wife.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, baptize me with Your Spirit of love and help me to love my wife again.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me with Your grace to sustain and continue to love my wife
I am refreshed by the Spirit of God to extend the love of Jesus in my heart to my wife because this will help me to become a good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.