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Main Scriptures: 1Cor.15:33

More Scriptures: Jos.24:15, Mk.9:29, Ps.16:6

Yesterday, we started a series on the position you and I must take as the shepherd over the sheep of God in our custody. And that position is vigilance. That we must be vigilant to watch over the spiritual, mental, emotional and physical lives of our sheep. Let us continue.

As the head of the family and the shepherd over your sheep, it is very important for you to watch over the kind of relationships that your wife and children keep and are involved in. Here, it refers to their social lives. You and I are products of our environment, and the relationship we have associated with over the years. And this is why the word of God admonishes us to mind the kind of relationships we keep. Bad company ruins good morals (1Cor.15:33) ESV.  Your wife and children are as good as the relationship that they keep. If they walk with the wise, they will be wise. If they walk with the foolish, they will be foolish. Relationship is influence.

So, how do I become vigilant over the kind of relationship my wife and children keep and how do I encourage them to keep good and godly relationships? The first practical step as the head of your family is to pray for the will of God to established in their lives. Your wife and children would make choices about relationships. Some of these choices are manipulated such that when they go into it, they are destroyed. Hence, they need to be guided. And because you may not be available all the time, there is One Person who can help. He is the Person of the Holy Spirit. But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, he will teach you all things and bring to your remembrance all that I have said to you. (Jn.14:26) ESV. All that you have told your wife and children about having a good and godly relationships can be reinforced in their lives by the Person of the Holy. The Holy Spirit helps to remind your sheep of your instructions and guidance, and that enables them to make good and godly choices in the relationship lives.

Secondly, you must try to be involved with who their friends are by asking to know them where possible or ask your sheep to tell you about their friends. You could invite them over to the house and trust the Person of the Holy Spirit to reveal their friend’s true personality. Thirdly, share godly materials about relationship and prayerfully hand them over to your sheep. You can also engage them by asking questions from the book you have given them. Encourage them to share the lessons learnt and personal experiences of good and bad relationships. Your wife and children are God’s treasures in your sheepfold. They are good. You must never sleep over their lives. You must be vigilant. As it is written in Scriptures, where your treasure is, there will your heart be (Matt.6:21).


  • Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from spiritual blindness and deafness.
  • Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to be spiritually alert over my wife and children.
  • Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to overcome every intruder that comes around my family fold.


I take delight in my wife and children and I am vigilant over their lives because that is what makes me the good and godly husbandman in Jesus name. Amen.

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One Comment

  1. Ron Ron

    Though we have been charged with the watch over our wives and children, I kindly disagree with tour thinking; for It was said about Jesus that he eats with public and and sinners. While we watch, we gave no true control. Our wives and children are individuals with free will. While we can warn them about bad company, and it’s effects on our character, they have to decide for themselves whom they hang around. Yes we can pray, but it has often been said that the Holy Spirit will not force his will upon you; neither will He force his will upon anyone.

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