Main Scriptures: Ps.141:2-3
More Scriptures: Pro.12:14, Pro.13:3, Matt.26:41
I call to you, Lord, come quickly to me; hear me when I call to you. May my prayer be set before you like incense; may the lifting of my hands be like the evening sacrifice. SET A GUARD OVER MY MOUTH, Lord; keep watch over the door of my lips. Ps.141:1-2 (NIV)
Today’s topic is important to the success of your leadership role as the good and godly man, husband, and father. This is because the power of life and death is in the tongue. And many of the things we experience today in our relationship with our sheep is because of the careless words we spoke yesterday.
You must understand that the will of God is to make you the good and godly husbandman. God wants you to influence your wife and children and the world for Jesus Christ. God also wants you to conduct yourself with dignity and discretion. And one major way He wants to achieve this is through your ability to control your utterances so that you do not utter very dangerous words that may inflict permanent damage on your wife and children. The one who guards his mouth preserves his life, the one who opens his wide his lips come to ruins (Pro.13:3) NASB. It is true that you are angry with your wife and children. It is true that you are not happy with their conduct. It is true that you are pained in your spirit that your efforts toward leading your wife and children are not yielding the desired results that you want to see. A lot of husbandmen have destroyed the self-worth of their sheep by the abusive words they utter. But you can control the words that come out of your mouth. You can control what you say when you are upset with your wife and children. You can bring your tongue under check. That is what God wants you to grow into-matured shepherd.
But how do I exercise control over my mouth so that I do not speak ungraceful words to my wife and children? Firstly, you must give attention to the word of God and be prepared to allow the Word to influence you. Until the word of God takes dominance of your spirit man, you cannot gain mastery of your lips. And one principal way to achieve this is by trusting every word that God speaks from His word (Jos.1:6-9). Secondly, you must give yourself to a life of prayer and speaking in the Holy Ghost as often as possible. Jesus Christ, who is the perfect example of the good and godly husbandman admonish us to, “watch and pray that ye fall not into temptation (Matt.26:41)”. Two things happen when you pray. It helps you to ventilate your pain to God and it opens your heart to direction from the Holy Spirit (Jn.14:26). And as you guard your lips and speak wise words, they will bring you peace in your home and dispel tension and bitterness (Pro.12:14) NLT.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from speaking ungodly utterances.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, order my lips to speak graceful words to my wife and children.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, build me up and empower me to have control over the words of my mouth.
I have the mind of Christ, and I have control, by the Spirit of God, over the words that proceed from my mouth because that is what makes me the good and godly husbandman to my wife and children and the world in Jesus name. Amen.