Main Scriptures: Jas.3:2-8
More Scriptures: Col.4:6, Philp.4:8, Pro.16:24
For in many things we offend all. If any man offend not in word, the same is a perfect man and able also to bridle the whole body…….behold also the ships, which though they be so great and are driven of fierce winds, yet are they turned about with very small helm, whithersoever the governor listeth. Even so the tongue is a little member and boasteth great things. Behold, how great a matter a little fire kindleth. And the tongue is a fire……. (Jas.3:2,3-5). The above scripture talks about the smallest part of the human body yet it possesses so much power that it can either make or destroy a people, a nation and a family. It is the tongue and what it spews out. A story was told of a small fire that broke out in Thomas Farriner’s bakery in Pudding Lane in 1666. The fire started small but it eventually destroyed one-third of the city, with over 100,000 people left homeless. This is what happens when you have not learnt to bring your tongue under the control and influence of the Holy Spirit.
Let me begin by saying that many husbands have hurt their sheep by the words of their mouth more than they have hurt them by lack of money or any other provision. Many more shepherds have lost their sheep by speaking wrong words that have gone to hurt them so. This is why the message for today is timely for you from the word of God. As the head of your family, you must discipline and bridle your tongue to reconstruct your words rightly towards your sheep. You can ignite positive wellness in your sheep by reconstructing your words. Pleasant words are as an honeycomb, sweet to the soul and health to the bones (Pro.16:24). You must begin to speak pleasant words to your sheep, even when they have obviously failed. You must tell them that they are not failures but success. You must tell them that God has made them to ride upon the high places of the earth. You must tell them they are wonderfully and fearfully made. You must tell them that they are the seeds that the Lord has blessed. You must tell them they are honourable, bold and beautiful. You must tell them they can be the best in life. You must assure them that they can count on you for advice, help, comfort, counsel and support. These are the words that your wife and children want to hear and not abuses and insults that torture them and make them emotionally unstable.
But how do I reconstruct my words to become right words? The answer is found in Col.4:6. Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man (Col.4:6). Before you talk, ask if what you would say is pure, lovely (Philp.4:8). When you do this, you will grow to speak graceful words as a good and godly husband to your sheep.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to weigh my words against Your weight before I say them to my sheep.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to have total control over my tongue that it may speak not guile.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to speak graceful words to my sheep
I weigh my words on the measurement weight of Jesus Christ and by it I am empowered to speak seasoned and graceful word to my wife and children in Jesus Name. Amen.