Main Scriptures: Ps.23:1-6
More Scriptures: Col.3:9, Deut.28:1, Ps.38:4
As the head of your family and the shepherd of your sheep, have you ever wondered why they don’t obey you? Did you care to find out why your wife and children struggle to obey your instructions, take your counsel or follow after your footsteps? Well, let me tell you. It is simply because they do not trust you enough to believe in your leadership. You must understand that what connects you with your wife and children is leadership. You are their shepherd and they are your sheep. What defines your role is your ability to lead and guide them. So, if you have not shown enough capacity to build trust in the lives of your sheep, they will not obey you neither will they follow you. If you read Psalms 23 you will discover how much trust played in the life of the sheep. David obeyed God so much because God proved to be trusted and dependable.
The Lord is my shepherd I shall not want. He maketh me to lie down in green pastures, he leadeth me beside still waters. He restoreth my soul, he leadeth me in the paths of righteousness for his name’s sake. Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me, thy rod and thy staff they comfort me. Thou preparest a table before me in the presence of mine enemies, thou anointest my head with oil, my cup runneth over. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life and I shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever. (Ps.23:1-6)
There is no shepherd that will demonstrate the testimonies of Ps.23 and not command the obedience of his sheep. So, as the good shepherd, you must begin to build trust and confidence in the lives of your wife and children so that when you tell them to go they will go. When you say to them come, they will come. When you tell them not to go, they will not go.
There are two ways you can be trusted by your sheep and command their obedience. The first is for you not to lie to them. The Bible tells us that we should not lie to one another (Col.3:9). You must let your yes be yes and your no be no. If you cannot keep your promise, please don’t make it. You must be as transparent as possible with your sheep. The second is for you to have personal testimonies from the exercise of your obedience. For example, if you ask them to give, let them hear or share with them how you have been rewarded for the act of giving. If you want to them to be obedient, give them examples of how you have been obedient and the benefits you enjoyed from it. You must understand that your sheep will obey you only to the extent that they can trust you. Be the example of your obedience.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from a lying spirit.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, make me to speak the truth from an inward heart to my wife and children.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, make me the example of obedience to my sheep.
I become the example of my obedience for my wife and children to see and follow because that is what makes me the good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.