Main Scriptures: Ss.4:1-7
More Scriptures: Mal.2:14, Ps.128:3, Pro.5:18
You are so beautiful, my darling, so beautiful, and your dove eyes are veiled. By your hair as it flows and shimmers, like a flock of goats in the distance, streaming down a hillside in the sunshine. Your smile is generous and full-expressive and string and clean. Your lips are jewel red, your mouth elegant and inviting; your veiled cheeks soft and radiant. The smooth, lithe lines of your neck command notice-all head turn in awe and admiration. Your breasts are like fawns, twins of a gazelle, grazing among the first springs. The sweet, fragrant curves of your body, the soft, spiced contours of your flesh, invite and I come, I stay until dawn breaths its light and night slips away. You are beautiful from head to toes, my dear love, beautiful beyond compare, absolutely flawless (Ss.4:1-7). Message Bible
A lot of the times as husbands and lovers to our wives, we tend to think that the Bible did not mention romance. We also think that as godly husbands, our lives and relationship with our wives should be devoid of romance. But that is not true. The word of God provides us a basis to be romantic with our wives. And that is what the Scripture in Songs of Solomon chapter 4 and verses 1 to 7 communicate to every godly husbandman. God created you to be romantic. Isaac was so romantic with his wife that the king envied him (Gen. 26:8).
So as the head of the family and the lover of your wife, you must seek her attractive sides. You must remind yourself of those physical attributes that attracted you to her during courtship because if you don’t remind yourself, you will forget about her beauty and will fall into the hands of another woman. But why must I be attracted to my wife? She is a personality of honour and dignity. She is not a group. She is unique to you. This is why in First Peter chapter 2 and verse 9, the Word of God says you are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people (1Pet.2:9). It is a disservice to your wife to compare your wife with your mother or any other woman for that matter. It is ungodly for you to compare your wife’s cooking with that of your mother. Nothing hurts your wife more than you taking the initiative to destroy her self-esteem. Your wife is not a piece of furniture. Don’t use and dump her. Your wife is not your slave, don’t make look like one. Your wife is not your housemaid, don’t treat her with disrespect. Your wife is not your servant; don’t talk to her as though she doesn’t have any worth. You must understand that a lot of times your wife reacts to you in relation to how you treat her. If you treat her as your lover, she will respect you as her special one. Whatever you do to your wife is counted for you in heaven.
I am blessed to have a woman like my wife in my life and I hunt for her beauty with love and passion secretly and openly because that is what makes me the good and godly husband in Jesus name. Amen.