Main Scriptures: Acts 9:5-6
More Scriptures: Is.6:8, Col.3:19, Eph.6:18
And he fell to the earth, and heard a voice saying unto him, Saul, Saul, why persecuted thou me? And he said, who art thou Lord? And the Lord said, I am Jesus whom thou persecutest. It is hard for thee to kick against the pricks. And he trembling and astonished said, Lord what shall thou have me to do? And the Lord said unto him, arise and go into the city and it shall be told thee what thou must do (Act 9:4-6).
This Scripture tells us about the encounter Saul had on his way to Damascus. At the twilight of this meeting with the Lord, he asked, what shall you have me to do? Apostle Paul wanted to know how he could be useful to God and His kingdom. He understood that the reason for his existence was to serve God. And that was exactly what happened. He is responsible for writing over 70% of the New Testament.
Now what does this teach you and I as heads of our families? First, as the head of your family, you must understand that your presence in the lives of your wife and children is to serve them. And in most cases the best way to serve people is to find out from them how best you can serve them. Second, your headship is a mark of responsibilities and accountability. You are responsible for the molding of the destinies of your flock. This means more of them and less of you. I remember sometime years ago the incident between my first child and I. I decided that I was going to serve as her school lesson teacher. Each time we got to the reading table, we did not connect. She seemed not to understand most things that I said. Sincerely, I met a brick wall. I knew I was not getting the results that I desperately wanted. So, I asked her, “what would you want me to do?”. And she said to me, “daddy, try not to shout at or hit me”. Honestly, it was the hardest and most frank response I had ever gotten from a six year old. Thank God I listened. And as I worked in this new pathway of service, I did not only get results, she won several academic awards in her school. You can ask your wife, “what shall you have me do for you?”. You may ask your child “what shall you have me do for you?”. There is no harm in asking. It just provides a platform for you to serve them better. That’s what makes you the good and godly shepherd.
- Father, by the power in the blood of Jesus Christ, break every power of pride in my life.
- Father, by the power in the blood of Jesus Christ, infuse in me the spirit of humility.
- Father, by Your Spirit, impart in me a teachable spirit and help me to ask right questions.
I humble myself to ask my wife and children how best I would serve them because that is the gateway for me to becoming a good and godly husband in Jesus name. Amen.