Main Scriptures: Colossians 3:9
More Scriptures: Gen.2:24-25, Jas.16, 3Jn:8
If you are a husband reading this devotional today, I would like us to do an integrity test. And I want you to be sincere and honest with your answers. Are you loyal to your wife and children? One of the most important virtues that you must cultivate in your life as the head of your family is trust. However, you cannot compel your wife and children to trust you rather you work hard to earn their trust.
As the leader in your family fold, you do not assume that your sheep will trust what you say or where you go because you are the head. You have to demonstrate to your sheep that what you say is what you mean and where you go is actually the place you have gone. And this is why the Bible commands you to let your light so shine before men that they may see your good works and glorify God who is in heaven (Matt.5:14-16). Until your wife and children see your conduct as reflecting what is pure, lovely and of good report, they will continue to doubt you. So, your loyalty to them is what motivates them to be loyal to you. You must first sow the seed of loyalty into their lives before they can respond to you faithfully.
But how do I become loyal to my flock? By being truthful to your wife in all things including your journeys, finances, and business as well as in all matters. From our Scripture reading today, the Word of God says; Do not lie to one another, since you have put off the old man with his deeds (Col.3:9). As the head of the family, you owe your wife the duty of telling her the truth. If you are going to work, tell her you are going to work. If you are travelling for an official assignment outside of town, tell her you will be out of town. If you are visiting a female friend, tell her you are visiting a female friend. If you have a property or you’re building a house in any location or part of the world, let her know in totality. Your wife is not your enemy. God has given her to you to be a blessing and not a burden. You must understand that it is a risk to embark on a trip of perdition without telling your wife. For example it is a death trap to tell your wife that you are travelling out of town for business deals, when you are actually down town with a woman in a hotel room. Have you wondered, what will happen to your family name if you get into trouble out of that unfaithful encounter? If you read Gen.2 and the last verse, it says they became one flesh. This means there is a bond that exists between the husband and his wife. Make your life open to your wife. It will not cost you anything but will provide the much-needed safety you desire.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to be truthful to my wife and children all the time.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to speak the truth from an inward heart.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from lies and deceit.
I make my life an open epistle to my wife and children even as I speak the truth to them from an inward heart because that is what makes me a good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.