Main Scriptures: Eph.6:3-4
More Scriptures: Jos.24:15, Jn.6:32, Jn.8:49
So, if the will of God for me is to be the godly father, who then is the godly father? The word of God provides you and I with the answers from Ephesians chapter 6 and verse 4. The godly father doesn’t only provide for his children and have excellent relationship with them, he also personally takes the responsibility to nurture, lead and train his children in the way of the Lord Jesus Christ. He does not abscond from the home neither does he relinquish his covenant responsibilities to his wife.
As the godly father, you must rise above tradition and culture and embrace the truth of the word of God. Your children are yours and not your wife. You planted the seeds into your wife. She receives the seeds and conceives because God gave conception. So Boaz took Ruth and she was his wife and when he went in unto her, the Lord gave her conception and she bare a son (Ruth 4:13). Scientifically, it has been proven that when the ownership of a child is in dispute, paternity and not maternity test is conducted. This means that the child is linked to the father. Therefore, it is wisdom to understand that you have much more stake in the lives of your children than anybody else. You are to behave like the diligent and wise farmer. The wise farmer has the seeds, clears the fields, plants the seeds, waters the seed, protects the seeds and guides the harvest to the store house. That is what God wants you to do for your children.
But how do I become the godly father? The first step is for you to have a quality relationship with Your Father in heaven by giving your life to Him and asking Him to be your Father (Acts 10:35-36). When you understand the fatherhood relationship God wants you to have with Him, you will appreciate the joys that come with it. The second step is for you to give attention to the word of God because that is the weapon you need to lead and instruct your children in the way of the Lord (Lk.4:4). What you and your children need to know is in the Bible. Thirdly, you must pay attention to the growth phase of their lives and ask the Holy Spirit to help you teach them through the phases. Your children have their childhood phase. They also have their adolescent phase and their youthful phase. Each of these phases requires different godly principles (Ecc.3:1). According to Scriptures, there are times, you teach and instruct them the word of God as you walk with them. There are other times that you teach them when they lie down with them. And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children and shalt talk to them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down and when thou risest up (Duet.6:7).
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, baptize me with unusual grace to be a godly example to my children.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to always please You as it concerns my children.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, deliver me from every spirit of idleness and irresponsibility.
I have been empowered by the Holy Ghost to lead, instruct and nurture my children as Christ commands because that is what makes the good and godly father in Jesus Name. Amen.