Main Scriptures: Eph.5:25-29
More Scriptures: Deut.4:31, Matt.5:7, Heb.2:17
Let me begin by saying that if you had wanted to have perfect wife from the beginning, you had made a mistake. And if you now wished that your wife never has any weakness you are wrong. Your wife, just like you, has loads of past mistakes and weaknesses. So, it is suicidal to think that you will ever marry a finished wife. God did not design her that way and that is why He sent her to you to cherish and nurture. And for this cause shall a man leave father and mother and shall cleave to his wife, and they twain shall be one flesh (Matt.19:5). The day you took your woman to become your lawful wedded wife is the day you assumed the responsibilities of a pastor, a priest, a prophet, a mentor and a teacher over her. It is a lifetime assignment that you must fulfill in the life of your wife. So, beyond enjoying the status of a husband you must be prepared to engage yourself with the demands that come with the position of the husbandman.
It is for this reason that the Scripture admonishes you to treat her according to knowledge knowing that she has weaknesses and may disappoint you. Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life that your prayers be not hindered (1Pet.3:7). Jesus Christ, who is the perfect example of a good and godly husband, appreciates all our weaknesses, hence while we are yet in sin He paid the ultimate price for our salvation-He died for our sins. This is the sacrifice He made for you and that is what He wants you to do to your wife by loving her with her baggage. Husbands, love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it (Eph.5:25).
But why would God want me to love my wife beyond her mistakes and errors? The first is because you are her head and saviour. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church and he is the savior of the body (Eph.5:23). The second is because you need to help her overcome some wrong values she may have grown with. And you do this by teaching her the Word of God through your conduct and utterances and by praying the Word of God into her life. That he (you) might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of the water by the word (Eph.5:26). When you have built her up, God will reward you and there will be a crown of glory for you on the last day. That he (you) might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle or any such thing but that it should be holy and without blemish (Eph.5:27). Boaz married Ruth inspite of her limitations. You can with your wife.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to function in the various aspect of my headship.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, give my wife a heart to receive my godly instructions.
· Father, in the Name of Jesus, grant me wisdom on how to guide my wife unto all truth.
I see beyond the fault and weakness of my wife and I work to helping her grow in grace and stature because that is what makes me a good and godly husband in Jesus Name. Amen.