Main Scripture: 1Cor.7:3-5
More Scriptures: Rom.8:13, Pro.2:11, Is.30:21
A lot of times as the head of the family, we tend to think that what binds the marriage relationship is all about sex. And to this extent, many people have placed emphasis on sex as an end to itself rather than a means to end. This imbalance has made a lot of the husbandmen to become sexually irresponsible and perverts, always thinking that sex will solve all the problems in their marriage. This has continued to create distortion in the sheepfold and has made the husbandman to seek to satisfy his sexual desires by any means, at any cost and with anyone.
However important sex is, it is not the answer to living the life of the good and godly husbandman. Yes, sex is important. It is an important aspect of the marriage relationship. God created it for the enjoyment of both you and your wife. Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife hath not power of her own body but the husband and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body but the wife. Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with the consent for a time, that ye may give yourself to fasting and prayer, and come together again, that satan tempt you not for your incontinency (1Cor.7:3-5). So, it is not out of place if you desire sex
As the head of the family and the godly husbandman, you must understand that sex is good but it cannot and will not overcome your ungodly attitude like bitterness, unforgiveness, anger, adultery, lying, fighting and much more. Listen to this truth, and let it sink deeply into your heart and spirit. Sex will never solve your problems as the godly husbandman. If sex would, then sexually active and vibrant wife wouldn’t have husbands who still commit adultery. I have had course to counsel husbands who had challenges with their wives. They never complained that sex was the problem they have with their wives. They mentioned other things but not sex. So, the answer to the present challenges that you are having with your sheep and your desired expectation to live a godly life is not in sex but in JESUS CHRIST. Once you allow Him to come into your life, He empowers you to be like Him in every area of your leadership as the man, husband and father. If any man be in Christ, he is a new creature, old things have passed away behold all things have become new. (2Cor.5:17). Jesus Christ is the way. He is the solution to the challenges you have. He can help you and He is willing.
You must take these three quick steps to connect to the power of God for the answer you desire. Firstly, you must be born again. Secondly, you must identify with a Bible believing church and join them in fellowship. And thirdly, you must study your Bible as you desire food daily.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, help me to have the godly perspective about sex and its benefits.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to overcome uncontrolled sexual desires.
- Father, in the Name of Jesus, empower me to live a discipline life as the godly husbandman.
I have the mind of Christ and I bring my sexual desires under control because I want to honour God and my wife as the good and godly husband in Jesus name. Amen.